01-24-2025, 11:35 AM
I’ve been there, too. I used to think something was wrong with me because I couldn’t come from oral sex, even though I loved it. The sensation was fantastic, but I just couldn’t get to that ultimate release. It honestly took me a while to understand that it wasn’t about technique alone—it was more about my mind being in the right place.
What really helped me was loosening up about the whole process. I stopped expecting myself to orgasm from oral every time. Instead, I focused on how good the sensations felt and just let myself enjoy them without thinking about the outcome. That mindset shift was huge for me. Once I relaxed more, I could appreciate the feeling without the pressure of having to "perform."
Something I found that works well for me is incorporating other forms of stimulation while giving oral a go. Maybe mix in some light pressure with fingers or even change up the pace a little. It’s all about finding that sweet spot between mental relaxation and physical sensation. The more you experiment with different touches and mindsets, the more you’ll learn about what gets you there.
You're not alone in this, and it's more common than you might think. It can feel isolating, but just remember that there’s no one “right” way to experience pleasure. It’s all about finding what works for you!
What really helped me was loosening up about the whole process. I stopped expecting myself to orgasm from oral every time. Instead, I focused on how good the sensations felt and just let myself enjoy them without thinking about the outcome. That mindset shift was huge for me. Once I relaxed more, I could appreciate the feeling without the pressure of having to "perform."
Something I found that works well for me is incorporating other forms of stimulation while giving oral a go. Maybe mix in some light pressure with fingers or even change up the pace a little. It’s all about finding that sweet spot between mental relaxation and physical sensation. The more you experiment with different touches and mindsets, the more you’ll learn about what gets you there.
You're not alone in this, and it's more common than you might think. It can feel isolating, but just remember that there’s no one “right” way to experience pleasure. It’s all about finding what works for you!