01-24-2025, 11:35 AM
I understand where you're coming from. For so long, I struggled with not being able to orgasm from oral sex, and it was really discouraging. My ex used to get so frustrated because I couldn't get there even though everything seemed to be perfect. What I learned through all of it is that the pressure of trying to orgasm made it harder to actually do so.
What helped me was realizing that my body doesn't necessarily work the same way every time, and I had to let go of the need for a “perfect” orgasm from oral. I started to focus on just enjoying the process instead of making the goal my primary focus. One thing that worked for me was incorporating mental relaxation techniques like focusing on deep breathing to calm my mind and make my body more receptive to touch.
Also, I talked to my partner about how I felt, and together we tried switching things up a bit. Sometimes, combining oral with other forms of stimulation (like having him use his fingers during oral) worked better for me. It took some trial and error, but eventually, I found that a mix of sensations helped me build up the right kind of pleasure.
So, yeah, the pressure and mental block are very real. I think once you stop focusing so much on reaching orgasm through one specific act, you might unlock a new level of pleasure. Be patient with yourself—it’s a journey!
What helped me was realizing that my body doesn't necessarily work the same way every time, and I had to let go of the need for a “perfect” orgasm from oral. I started to focus on just enjoying the process instead of making the goal my primary focus. One thing that worked for me was incorporating mental relaxation techniques like focusing on deep breathing to calm my mind and make my body more receptive to touch.
Also, I talked to my partner about how I felt, and together we tried switching things up a bit. Sometimes, combining oral with other forms of stimulation (like having him use his fingers during oral) worked better for me. It took some trial and error, but eventually, I found that a mix of sensations helped me build up the right kind of pleasure.
So, yeah, the pressure and mental block are very real. I think once you stop focusing so much on reaching orgasm through one specific act, you might unlock a new level of pleasure. Be patient with yourself—it’s a journey!