01-24-2025, 11:34 AM
I’ve been in a similar situation where I could never orgasm from oral sex alone. It was incredibly frustrating, especially since it’s so often portrayed as the easiest way to get there. For me, the mental block was a huge factor. I’ve always been someone who loves trying different things in the bedroom, but when it came to oral, I couldn’t relax enough to let go.
Over time, I realized that I was overthinking everything. When I shifted my focus from “I need to orgasm now” to just enjoying the sensation, I started having better experiences. The pressure to perform or reach the "goal" really held me back. I also started talking more openly with my partner about what felt good and asking for more variation during oral sessions. Sometimes, a little change—whether it's different movements or incorporating fingers—could make all the difference.
The other thing I noticed was that stress and anxiety in my daily life would affect my sexual experiences. If I was in my head, it was hard to get out of it during sex. Meditation, self-care, and being mindful of what I’m feeling made me more in tune with my body. When I took the pressure off myself, that’s when things started to click.
It’s a tough situation, but try not to feel alone in this. It’s more common than you think. Relax, be patient with yourself, and maybe try experimenting with different combos of touch and sensation. You’ll find what works for you!
Over time, I realized that I was overthinking everything. When I shifted my focus from “I need to orgasm now” to just enjoying the sensation, I started having better experiences. The pressure to perform or reach the "goal" really held me back. I also started talking more openly with my partner about what felt good and asking for more variation during oral sessions. Sometimes, a little change—whether it's different movements or incorporating fingers—could make all the difference.
The other thing I noticed was that stress and anxiety in my daily life would affect my sexual experiences. If I was in my head, it was hard to get out of it during sex. Meditation, self-care, and being mindful of what I’m feeling made me more in tune with my body. When I took the pressure off myself, that’s when things started to click.
It’s a tough situation, but try not to feel alone in this. It’s more common than you think. Relax, be patient with yourself, and maybe try experimenting with different combos of touch and sensation. You’ll find what works for you!