01-24-2025, 11:33 AM
Hey, I really admire your approach to this. It sounds like you're committed to making sure your wife has a fulfilling experience, and that’s so important. From my experience, it’s crucial to focus on emotional connection just as much as physical techniques. My partner and I went through a similar situation, and one thing that made a difference for us was slowing things down. Sometimes, we get so caught up in the mechanics of sex that we forget how important it is to just enjoy the closeness and connection.
What helped us was also prioritizing communication. We would talk about how we felt during and after sex, and gradually, she became more comfortable telling me what worked and what didn’t. It took time, but with patience and understanding, we got there. I also think it’s important to give her the space to feel like she’s not being judged for not having an orgasm. No pressure—that pressure can actually make things worse.
One other thing I’ll mention is how helpful it was for us to explore different types of touch and sensations. Sometimes, it’s not just about the traditional techniques we think work. I’m talking about things like using massage, experimenting with temperature, or playing with different forms of physical affection to see what really resonates with her body.
Lastly, don’t feel guilty. The fact that you’re seeking solutions and being so thoughtful about it shows how much you care. That’s the most important thing.
What helped us was also prioritizing communication. We would talk about how we felt during and after sex, and gradually, she became more comfortable telling me what worked and what didn’t. It took time, but with patience and understanding, we got there. I also think it’s important to give her the space to feel like she’s not being judged for not having an orgasm. No pressure—that pressure can actually make things worse.
One other thing I’ll mention is how helpful it was for us to explore different types of touch and sensations. Sometimes, it’s not just about the traditional techniques we think work. I’m talking about things like using massage, experimenting with temperature, or playing with different forms of physical affection to see what really resonates with her body.
Lastly, don’t feel guilty. The fact that you’re seeking solutions and being so thoughtful about it shows how much you care. That’s the most important thing.