01-24-2025, 11:33 AM
Wow, reading your post really struck a chord with me. I’ve been in a similar situation, and I totally get the emotional rollercoaster you’re on right now. It can feel like you're doing everything you can, but sometimes it still feels like there’s a missing piece. One thing that helped me and my partner was just taking the focus off of orgasms entirely for a while. We shifted the conversation to being more about enjoying the experience and being in the moment, rather than aiming for a specific outcome. It really changed the dynamic of our intimacy.
Have you considered asking her to take the lead in guiding you through what she likes? Sometimes, women might not even know exactly what works for them unless they explore it themselves. That means letting her be more vocal about what feels good and being patient as she figures it out. It's all about creating a safe space where she doesn't feel judged or pressured to perform.
Also, there are some amazing resources out there, like books and online workshops, that address these issues in a positive, educational way. They can give both of you tools to try new things together and break down the barriers around communication. I recommend checking out "Come As You Are" by Emily Nagoski—it really helped me understand the complexities of female sexuality.
And remember, it’s totally normal for this kind of thing to take time. Don’t rush the process—keep being patient and supportive. It sounds like you're already doing everything right.
Have you considered asking her to take the lead in guiding you through what she likes? Sometimes, women might not even know exactly what works for them unless they explore it themselves. That means letting her be more vocal about what feels good and being patient as she figures it out. It's all about creating a safe space where she doesn't feel judged or pressured to perform.
Also, there are some amazing resources out there, like books and online workshops, that address these issues in a positive, educational way. They can give both of you tools to try new things together and break down the barriers around communication. I recommend checking out "Come As You Are" by Emily Nagoski—it really helped me understand the complexities of female sexuality.
And remember, it’s totally normal for this kind of thing to take time. Don’t rush the process—keep being patient and supportive. It sounds like you're already doing everything right.