01-24-2025, 11:32 AM
I’ve dealt with this kind of issue too, and it’s tough because there’s a real disconnect between what happens during solo play versus with a partner. I think you’re on the right track by considering the psychological side of things. There’s so much pressure to perform, and that pressure can totally block your ability to enjoy the moment.
What helped me was just letting go of expectations. When I stopped focusing so much on the goal of orgasm, I started enjoying the process a lot more. It might sound cliché, but focusing on the pleasure you’re both experiencing—without worrying about whether you’re going to finish—can take a lot of the anxiety out of it. Over time, that pressure will lessen, and the natural enjoyment will follow.
Also, I’d recommend trying to incorporate relaxation or mindfulness techniques before you get intimate. Whether it’s just taking a moment to breathe and center yourself, or even doing something calming together, it can help you reset and approach things in a more relaxed state of mind.
And finally, remember that it’s okay to not always finish. Sometimes, taking the pressure off will actually help you reach that point more naturally. Don’t be afraid to experiment and communicate openly with your partner about what’s going on. They’re more likely to be supportive than you think.
What helped me was just letting go of expectations. When I stopped focusing so much on the goal of orgasm, I started enjoying the process a lot more. It might sound cliché, but focusing on the pleasure you’re both experiencing—without worrying about whether you’re going to finish—can take a lot of the anxiety out of it. Over time, that pressure will lessen, and the natural enjoyment will follow.
Also, I’d recommend trying to incorporate relaxation or mindfulness techniques before you get intimate. Whether it’s just taking a moment to breathe and center yourself, or even doing something calming together, it can help you reset and approach things in a more relaxed state of mind.
And finally, remember that it’s okay to not always finish. Sometimes, taking the pressure off will actually help you reach that point more naturally. Don’t be afraid to experiment and communicate openly with your partner about what’s going on. They’re more likely to be supportive than you think.