01-24-2025, 11:31 AM
Man, I’ve been in your shoes. It’s such a frustrating place to be in because you want to enjoy the experience, but your brain is just working against you. I think the key here is to start focusing on your connection with her rather than the end result. Pressure to perform can be paralyzing, and it’s easy to fall into that cycle where the more you try, the harder it gets.
What helped me was slowing things down and taking the focus off of finishing. I’d tell myself it’s okay if I don’t reach that climax; what matters is enjoying each other’s company and the pleasure along the way. Sometimes the more you try to force it, the further it feels from happening. This shift in mindset can take some time, but it made a huge difference for me.
Also, don’t underestimate the power of talking about it. I know it’s not easy to admit, but communicating your feelings can create a lot of intimacy in itself. It might even help relieve some of that pressure if she understands that it’s not about her—it's about your own mental block.
You could also try mixing things up a bit. Sometimes doing something different, like focusing more on foreplay or trying new positions, can reset the dynamic. It might just be a matter of finding a rhythm together that feels more natural, and it’s all about experimenting without stressing about getting things perfect.
What helped me was slowing things down and taking the focus off of finishing. I’d tell myself it’s okay if I don’t reach that climax; what matters is enjoying each other’s company and the pleasure along the way. Sometimes the more you try to force it, the further it feels from happening. This shift in mindset can take some time, but it made a huge difference for me.
Also, don’t underestimate the power of talking about it. I know it’s not easy to admit, but communicating your feelings can create a lot of intimacy in itself. It might even help relieve some of that pressure if she understands that it’s not about her—it's about your own mental block.
You could also try mixing things up a bit. Sometimes doing something different, like focusing more on foreplay or trying new positions, can reset the dynamic. It might just be a matter of finding a rhythm together that feels more natural, and it’s all about experimenting without stressing about getting things perfect.