01-24-2025, 11:31 AM
I can definitely relate to your situation. I’ve had a similar experience where I could finish just fine when I was by myself, but when I was with a partner, it felt like something was off. It can be a huge mental block when you’re trying to enjoy intimacy but feel the pressure to perform. For me, it helped to take a step back and reframe the whole experience. I started focusing less on the goal of finishing and more on enjoying the moment. Sometimes the anxiety about performance just gets in the way.
Another thing I noticed was how much my own habits around masturbation were affecting things. We get used to a specific rhythm or kind of touch, and when it’s different with a partner, it can throw us off. Communication helped here too. I was open with my partner about needing a bit of time to get comfortable and relaxed. It was about making the process more about connection than just getting to the finish line.
You mentioned psychological pressure, and I think that’s key. I started practicing mindfulness techniques, trying to focus on the sensations rather than any expectations. The more I could let go of the idea that I had to perform, the more enjoyable the experience became. Maybe it’s worth exploring relaxation exercises before you’re intimate together—getting into a calmer, less anxious space.
Lastly, don’t be too hard on yourself. These things happen, and it’s completely normal. Be patient with yourself, and also communicate with your partner about what’s going on. They might not understand at first, but being open and honest about your feelings can make a big difference in the long run.
Another thing I noticed was how much my own habits around masturbation were affecting things. We get used to a specific rhythm or kind of touch, and when it’s different with a partner, it can throw us off. Communication helped here too. I was open with my partner about needing a bit of time to get comfortable and relaxed. It was about making the process more about connection than just getting to the finish line.
You mentioned psychological pressure, and I think that’s key. I started practicing mindfulness techniques, trying to focus on the sensations rather than any expectations. The more I could let go of the idea that I had to perform, the more enjoyable the experience became. Maybe it’s worth exploring relaxation exercises before you’re intimate together—getting into a calmer, less anxious space.
Lastly, don’t be too hard on yourself. These things happen, and it’s completely normal. Be patient with yourself, and also communicate with your partner about what’s going on. They might not understand at first, but being open and honest about your feelings can make a big difference in the long run.