01-24-2025, 11:29 AM
Man, it sounds like you’re really invested in making things work for your girlfriend, which is great. In terms of clitoral sensitivity, keep in mind that every woman is different. Some women have heightened sensitivity, while others have less, and that’s totally normal. One thing I’ve found is that sometimes women with less sensitivity in their clitoris might have more in other areas like the labia or the vaginal opening. So, don’t focus solely on the clitoris—try to explore these other areas.
If she’s not feeling much from oral sex, maybe consider the way you’re doing it. Have you tried switching up the rhythm or adding more teasing before you get to the clit? A lot of women enjoy oral more when there’s build-up and anticipation. Also, have you thought about combining oral with manual stimulation? Some women respond better when they have multiple sensations at once. So, for example, you could be using your fingers on her inner walls while orally stimulating her.
And don’t underestimate the power of mental arousal. If she’s turned off by the idea of you going down on her, it might not be because of the act itself but rather how it’s making her feel. Create a comfortable environment, and ask her what kind of setting she enjoys. Maybe you can try doing it in a different place or using words to enhance her experience. Trust me, when the mental aspect is on point, it makes everything else fall into place.
But remember, it’s a journey, and not every attempt is going to be perfect. It might take time, and that’s fine. As long as you keep an open line of communication and remain patient, you’ll eventually figure out what works for her. Keep at it, man!
If she’s not feeling much from oral sex, maybe consider the way you’re doing it. Have you tried switching up the rhythm or adding more teasing before you get to the clit? A lot of women enjoy oral more when there’s build-up and anticipation. Also, have you thought about combining oral with manual stimulation? Some women respond better when they have multiple sensations at once. So, for example, you could be using your fingers on her inner walls while orally stimulating her.
And don’t underestimate the power of mental arousal. If she’s turned off by the idea of you going down on her, it might not be because of the act itself but rather how it’s making her feel. Create a comfortable environment, and ask her what kind of setting she enjoys. Maybe you can try doing it in a different place or using words to enhance her experience. Trust me, when the mental aspect is on point, it makes everything else fall into place.
But remember, it’s a journey, and not every attempt is going to be perfect. It might take time, and that’s fine. As long as you keep an open line of communication and remain patient, you’ll eventually figure out what works for her. Keep at it, man!