01-24-2025, 11:29 AM
Hey there, I’ve been in your shoes before and had to deal with a partner who was really hard to figure out sexually. The first thing I’d recommend is exploring all aspects of her arousal—not just focusing on one area. For example, some women don’t feel much clitoral sensation because they might need more time to become aroused, and that’s when things like kissing, deep touching, and whispering sweet things in her ear can really ramp things up. Also, don’t be afraid to experiment with different types of touch or stimulation to see what works best for her.
If she’s not into oral, then maybe she’s just not receptive to it for personal reasons, or it could be a comfort thing. Some women get a bit self-conscious, so try being extra patient and finding ways to build her confidence. You could also try incorporating gentle touches on other parts of her body, like her lower back, inner thighs, or even her ears—areas she might not expect to be stimulated. You might be surprised at how responsive she is once you’ve found the right zone.
For clitoral stimulation, sometimes a vibrator can make a huge difference. I had a girlfriend who didn’t get much pleasure from oral until we started using a vibrator on her clit while I was doing other things. It was a game-changer. Even if she’s not super open to toys right now, don’t write them off completely. Start slow, and if you sense she’s hesitant, you can introduce them gently.
Finally, communication is crucial. You’re already doing the right thing by seeking advice and being considerate about her needs. But sometimes you need to hear from her directly about what feels good. Don’t just rely on cues—ask her to guide you, and keep adjusting until you find the right rhythm. Best of luck, man!
If she’s not into oral, then maybe she’s just not receptive to it for personal reasons, or it could be a comfort thing. Some women get a bit self-conscious, so try being extra patient and finding ways to build her confidence. You could also try incorporating gentle touches on other parts of her body, like her lower back, inner thighs, or even her ears—areas she might not expect to be stimulated. You might be surprised at how responsive she is once you’ve found the right zone.
For clitoral stimulation, sometimes a vibrator can make a huge difference. I had a girlfriend who didn’t get much pleasure from oral until we started using a vibrator on her clit while I was doing other things. It was a game-changer. Even if she’s not super open to toys right now, don’t write them off completely. Start slow, and if you sense she’s hesitant, you can introduce them gently.
Finally, communication is crucial. You’re already doing the right thing by seeking advice and being considerate about her needs. But sometimes you need to hear from her directly about what feels good. Don’t just rely on cues—ask her to guide you, and keep adjusting until you find the right rhythm. Best of luck, man!