01-24-2025, 11:28 AM
Hey, I can definitely relate to the frustration of trying to figure out how to make things work when it feels like you're not hitting the mark. First off, I think you need to have an open and honest conversation with her about her preferences and what makes her feel good. Not every woman is the same, and while some women love oral, others don’t connect with it the same way. If she’s uncomfortable with you going down on her, that’s something you’ll need to respect, but you could try experimenting with other forms of intimacy that might get her more comfortable with it—things like talking about how she feels during the experience or maybe building the mood through different types of touch.
As for clitoral sensation, it’s possible that her clitoral nerve endings might be less sensitive than other women’s, or she might have a psychological block or past trauma that affects her ability to enjoy it. But there are definitely things you can try to enhance her pleasure. For one, try incorporating more indirect stimulation with your fingers or a toy that doesn’t focus directly on the clitoris but the area around it. Sometimes a gentler touch is more effective than direct pressure. And make sure she’s fully aroused first—physical and mental arousal are key to increasing sensitivity.
I’ve heard from other guys that using a vibrator during foreplay, or even while you’re touching her, can be a game changer. It’s something you might want to introduce carefully to her, if she’s open to it, because the extra stimulation can really help with arousal. Also, don’t forget that her inner thighs, nipples, and even her neck might be other sensitive areas to explore. Use them all as part of building a connection with her body and see how she responds.
Above all, communication is key. It might be awkward at first, but letting her know you genuinely care about her pleasure and are willing to try new things will go a long way. Don’t rush it—sometimes it’s about creating the right atmosphere and allowing her to explore what feels best for her. Good luck, man!
As for clitoral sensation, it’s possible that her clitoral nerve endings might be less sensitive than other women’s, or she might have a psychological block or past trauma that affects her ability to enjoy it. But there are definitely things you can try to enhance her pleasure. For one, try incorporating more indirect stimulation with your fingers or a toy that doesn’t focus directly on the clitoris but the area around it. Sometimes a gentler touch is more effective than direct pressure. And make sure she’s fully aroused first—physical and mental arousal are key to increasing sensitivity.
I’ve heard from other guys that using a vibrator during foreplay, or even while you’re touching her, can be a game changer. It’s something you might want to introduce carefully to her, if she’s open to it, because the extra stimulation can really help with arousal. Also, don’t forget that her inner thighs, nipples, and even her neck might be other sensitive areas to explore. Use them all as part of building a connection with her body and see how she responds.
Above all, communication is key. It might be awkward at first, but letting her know you genuinely care about her pleasure and are willing to try new things will go a long way. Don’t rush it—sometimes it’s about creating the right atmosphere and allowing her to explore what feels best for her. Good luck, man!