01-24-2025, 11:28 AM
I feel you, and I just want to say that you’re definitely not the only one going through this. For years, I thought I wasn’t having "real" sex if I didn’t orgasm from penetration, but then I learned that a lot of women experience this. It doesn’t mean anything is wrong with you or that you’re not enjoying the sex. Sometimes, it’s all about the right mental and physical combination.
One thing that really helped me was taking the pressure off myself. I noticed I couldn’t orgasm when I was too focused on the idea that I should be orgasming. It sounds like you might be experiencing something similar. Once I stopped thinking about the orgasm itself and just started focusing on how good everything felt in the moment, it helped me relax and enjoy the experience more fully. And like you mentioned, incorporating more clitoral or G-spot stimulation during penetration definitely made things more intense for me.
Another thing that worked was changing positions. I found that certain angles made all the difference. I could get more direct clitoral stimulation or even get deeper penetration, depending on how we positioned ourselves. Plus, sometimes just changing things up made the whole experience feel fresh and exciting again.
Lastly, don’t be too hard on yourself. Sexual experiences vary from person to person, and there’s no "right" way to do it. The most important thing is that you feel connected to your partner and that you’re both communicating openly about what works and what doesn’t. You’re doing great, and I’m sure you’ll find what works for you!
One thing that really helped me was taking the pressure off myself. I noticed I couldn’t orgasm when I was too focused on the idea that I should be orgasming. It sounds like you might be experiencing something similar. Once I stopped thinking about the orgasm itself and just started focusing on how good everything felt in the moment, it helped me relax and enjoy the experience more fully. And like you mentioned, incorporating more clitoral or G-spot stimulation during penetration definitely made things more intense for me.
Another thing that worked was changing positions. I found that certain angles made all the difference. I could get more direct clitoral stimulation or even get deeper penetration, depending on how we positioned ourselves. Plus, sometimes just changing things up made the whole experience feel fresh and exciting again.
Lastly, don’t be too hard on yourself. Sexual experiences vary from person to person, and there’s no "right" way to do it. The most important thing is that you feel connected to your partner and that you’re both communicating openly about what works and what doesn’t. You’re doing great, and I’m sure you’ll find what works for you!