01-24-2025, 11:27 AM
Hey, I just wanted to say that it’s really brave of you to open up about this. I can totally relate to what you’re describing. For a while, I thought I was broken because I could never orgasm during penetration, but then I learned that it's just a lot more common than people talk about. It’s so easy to get in your head about it, especially when you’re with a partner who’s doing everything right. But sometimes, your body just needs a little more time or different stimulation.
I’ve found that one of the biggest things that helped me was focusing on the connection rather than the end result. It sounds cheesy, but really letting go of the "I need to orgasm" mindset made all the difference for me. I also started incorporating more communication into my sex life. We talk about what feels good, what doesn’t, and how we can make things better. That open dialogue took away the pressure for both of us.
Something else that worked was trying to switch up positions. Some positions were just better at hitting certain spots that led to more intense pleasure, even if it didn’t immediately lead to orgasm. I also think the mental aspect is huge. Mindfulness, like focusing on your breathing and being present, can make a world of difference.
Finally, just know you’re not alone. A lot of people struggle with this, and it doesn’t mean anything is wrong with you or your relationship. It’s all about finding what works for you, and I’m sure you’ll get there!
I’ve found that one of the biggest things that helped me was focusing on the connection rather than the end result. It sounds cheesy, but really letting go of the "I need to orgasm" mindset made all the difference for me. I also started incorporating more communication into my sex life. We talk about what feels good, what doesn’t, and how we can make things better. That open dialogue took away the pressure for both of us.
Something else that worked was trying to switch up positions. Some positions were just better at hitting certain spots that led to more intense pleasure, even if it didn’t immediately lead to orgasm. I also think the mental aspect is huge. Mindfulness, like focusing on your breathing and being present, can make a world of difference.
Finally, just know you’re not alone. A lot of people struggle with this, and it doesn’t mean anything is wrong with you or your relationship. It’s all about finding what works for you, and I’m sure you’ll get there!