01-24-2025, 11:27 AM
I totally get what you’re going through. For a long time, I thought something was wrong with me because I couldn’t orgasm from penetration either. It wasn’t until I really started thinking about it that I realized it had a lot to do with my own mindset. I’d get so wrapped up in trying to "perform" that I couldn’t relax enough to enjoy the moment. You mentioned getting tense, and I totally relate to that. Once I started focusing less on the goal of orgasm and more on just being in the moment, things started to shift.
Talking to my partner was a huge game-changer too. At first, I was worried that he’d be disappointed, but it actually brought us closer. We found ways to experiment together, and it became more about connecting rather than trying to achieve something. I also started exploring different ways to stimulate myself while we were having sex, like adding more G-spot or clitoral stimulation, which made a huge difference.
As for penetration itself, I found that positions where I could control the depth or angle of penetration helped me get closer to that orgasmic feeling. I also started experimenting with toys during sex, and that was a complete game-changer. It’s not cheating or anything—it just added an extra layer of stimulation.
Remember that every person’s body is different, and there’s no "right" way to experience orgasm. It’s all about finding what works for you, and it sounds like you’re on the right track by wanting to explore and communicate. You’ve got this!
Talking to my partner was a huge game-changer too. At first, I was worried that he’d be disappointed, but it actually brought us closer. We found ways to experiment together, and it became more about connecting rather than trying to achieve something. I also started exploring different ways to stimulate myself while we were having sex, like adding more G-spot or clitoral stimulation, which made a huge difference.
As for penetration itself, I found that positions where I could control the depth or angle of penetration helped me get closer to that orgasmic feeling. I also started experimenting with toys during sex, and that was a complete game-changer. It’s not cheating or anything—it just added an extra layer of stimulation.
Remember that every person’s body is different, and there’s no "right" way to experience orgasm. It’s all about finding what works for you, and it sounds like you’re on the right track by wanting to explore and communicate. You’ve got this!