01-24-2025, 11:27 AM
Hey, you’re definitely not alone in this! It’s pretty common for women to have difficulty orgasming from penetration alone, and it doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you. I’ve had similar experiences where penetration just didn’t get me over the edge, even if everything else felt great. It sounds like your partner is doing everything right, and you’re lucky to have someone who’s so attentive. But sometimes, the mental aspect really plays a huge role. I found that focusing too much on my performance or worrying if I’m satisfying my partner only made things worse.
For me, taking the pressure off was key. I started to shift my focus away from the idea of needing to orgasm and instead concentrated on the sensations and pleasure I was experiencing. Deep breathing helped me relax and just let go of those thoughts in my head. I also started talking more openly with my boyfriend about what felt good and what didn’t, which removed a lot of the tension for me.
I also had a similar experience where I could orgasm from clitoral stimulation, but that was often the key for me during penetration too. Exploring positions that allow for better clitoral access during sex really worked for me. Sometimes, a little extra manual or oral stimulation while in certain positions helped me reach that sweet spot.
At the end of the day, sex isn’t a race. You don’t have to reach the finish line every time. The important thing is that you’re both enjoying the experience, and with time and communication, things will get even better. You’re definitely not falling short!
For me, taking the pressure off was key. I started to shift my focus away from the idea of needing to orgasm and instead concentrated on the sensations and pleasure I was experiencing. Deep breathing helped me relax and just let go of those thoughts in my head. I also started talking more openly with my boyfriend about what felt good and what didn’t, which removed a lot of the tension for me.
I also had a similar experience where I could orgasm from clitoral stimulation, but that was often the key for me during penetration too. Exploring positions that allow for better clitoral access during sex really worked for me. Sometimes, a little extra manual or oral stimulation while in certain positions helped me reach that sweet spot.
At the end of the day, sex isn’t a race. You don’t have to reach the finish line every time. The important thing is that you’re both enjoying the experience, and with time and communication, things will get even better. You’re definitely not falling short!