01-24-2025, 11:26 AM
Hey man, I can relate to what you're going through, and I know it can be a real confidence killer. First of all, props to you for being so open about it and seeking advice. From my experience, it took me a long time to realize that this is actually a pretty common issue, and you’re not alone in it. One of the biggest things I learned was to take a step back and approach it without self-judgment. The more you try to “force” control, the more difficult it becomes, so I recommend trying to stay relaxed during the moment.
One technique I found helpful was edging—basically getting close to the point of no return and then stopping or slowing down to let your arousal drop a little before going again. It helped me train my body to recognize that threshold and gain more control over time. It’s a bit of a mental exercise, too, since it teaches you how to ride that wave of excitement without letting it overwhelm you.
Another thing I noticed was that taking care of my body in general—like regular exercise and a healthy diet—played a role in my stamina. Sometimes, the issue can be related to physical fitness, so if you’re not already, I’d definitely recommend working on strengthening your core and pelvic muscles. Those small things can add up and make a big difference in your ability to control ejaculation.
Lastly, don’t forget that it’s okay to experiment with different positions or techniques that help slow things down. Every person is different, and sometimes what works for one person might not be the best for another. It’s about finding what clicks for you both. Take your time with it, and trust that with practice, you’ll get better at it.
One technique I found helpful was edging—basically getting close to the point of no return and then stopping or slowing down to let your arousal drop a little before going again. It helped me train my body to recognize that threshold and gain more control over time. It’s a bit of a mental exercise, too, since it teaches you how to ride that wave of excitement without letting it overwhelm you.
Another thing I noticed was that taking care of my body in general—like regular exercise and a healthy diet—played a role in my stamina. Sometimes, the issue can be related to physical fitness, so if you’re not already, I’d definitely recommend working on strengthening your core and pelvic muscles. Those small things can add up and make a big difference in your ability to control ejaculation.
Lastly, don’t forget that it’s okay to experiment with different positions or techniques that help slow things down. Every person is different, and sometimes what works for one person might not be the best for another. It’s about finding what clicks for you both. Take your time with it, and trust that with practice, you’ll get better at it.