01-24-2025, 11:26 AM
Hey there, I’ve been in a similar situation before, and I know how it can really mess with your head. It sounds like it could be a combination of both physical sensitivity and mental pressure. I used to get caught up in the fear of failing, which only made things worse. One thing that helped me a lot was focusing less on the “performance” aspect and more on the pleasure and connection with my partner. If I stopped thinking about how long I was going to last, I found I was more in control of the situation.
The methods you mentioned, like the stop-start technique, are definitely worth trying, but it’s not something you’re going to master overnight. I suggest building up that technique gradually, like practicing during foreplay, where you’re in less of a rush. Just taking your time and not worrying about the eventual outcome made a huge difference for me. I also used the 5-second rule—when I felt myself getting close, I’d take a moment to breathe and then refocus. You'd be surprised how much control you can regain by doing that.
Another thing that worked for me was focusing on my partner’s pleasure first. Instead of feeling like I needed to "perform," I concentrated on making sure she was satisfied, which shifted my focus away from myself and helped me last longer. Plus, it makes the experience way more fulfilling when you can connect on that level.
And finally, don’t forget to relax! Stressing out only makes it worse. Focus on the experience, and let your body find its rhythm over time. It’ll come, and you’ll feel way more confident as you practice.
The methods you mentioned, like the stop-start technique, are definitely worth trying, but it’s not something you’re going to master overnight. I suggest building up that technique gradually, like practicing during foreplay, where you’re in less of a rush. Just taking your time and not worrying about the eventual outcome made a huge difference for me. I also used the 5-second rule—when I felt myself getting close, I’d take a moment to breathe and then refocus. You'd be surprised how much control you can regain by doing that.
Another thing that worked for me was focusing on my partner’s pleasure first. Instead of feeling like I needed to "perform," I concentrated on making sure she was satisfied, which shifted my focus away from myself and helped me last longer. Plus, it makes the experience way more fulfilling when you can connect on that level.
And finally, don’t forget to relax! Stressing out only makes it worse. Focus on the experience, and let your body find its rhythm over time. It’ll come, and you’ll feel way more confident as you practice.