01-24-2025, 11:26 AM
Hey man, I totally feel you on this one. It sounds like you're dealing with a mix of excitement and pressure, and that's something a lot of guys go through. The fact that you're worried about letting her down shows that you really care, which is a good thing, but it's also something that can make it even harder to relax in the moment. From my experience, it's all about retraining your brain and body to recognize when you're about to hit that point of no return and having a way to back off.
The stop-start method is a great tool, but like you said, it’s tough to remember when everything is happening so fast. I’ve found that practicing it during solo sessions helped me a lot, just so that I could really nail it when things got intense with a partner. Along with that, I’d recommend Kegel exercises to build up that pelvic muscle control. It’s a slow burn, but over time, I noticed I was able to hold back a lot longer, and the mental side of things became easier to manage.
One thing I also tried was mindfulness techniques. It sounds weird, but if you can stay present and focused on her and the experience instead of getting overwhelmed, it can really help. For example, focus on how she feels, how she smells, or the sound of her breathing—anything that keeps your mind grounded in the moment rather than allowing it to race to the finish line.
In the end, don’t be too hard on yourself, man. It’s not easy, and it’s something that takes time to figure out. The pressure you feel is natural, but the more you work on control, the more you’ll notice progress. Keep at it, and don’t stress about getting it right every time.
The stop-start method is a great tool, but like you said, it’s tough to remember when everything is happening so fast. I’ve found that practicing it during solo sessions helped me a lot, just so that I could really nail it when things got intense with a partner. Along with that, I’d recommend Kegel exercises to build up that pelvic muscle control. It’s a slow burn, but over time, I noticed I was able to hold back a lot longer, and the mental side of things became easier to manage.
One thing I also tried was mindfulness techniques. It sounds weird, but if you can stay present and focused on her and the experience instead of getting overwhelmed, it can really help. For example, focus on how she feels, how she smells, or the sound of her breathing—anything that keeps your mind grounded in the moment rather than allowing it to race to the finish line.
In the end, don’t be too hard on yourself, man. It’s not easy, and it’s something that takes time to figure out. The pressure you feel is natural, but the more you work on control, the more you’ll notice progress. Keep at it, and don’t stress about getting it right every time.