01-24-2025, 11:23 AM
I’ve had a similar experience, and I know how frustrating it can be to feel like something is missing even though everything seems perfect. In my case, I realized that the stress from my work life was leaking into my personal life, even when I didn’t feel actively stressed. It wasn’t until I did some deep self-reflection that I realized how much my body had been holding on to that tension. Once I acknowledged it, I started focusing on ways to let go of that stress during sex, like practicing mindfulness or relaxation techniques before getting intimate.
Another thing that really helped was taking the focus off orgasm altogether. I stopped thinking about the finish line and started paying more attention to how the experience felt in the moment. Trying to enjoy each sensation, without rushing to the climax, helped me relax and enjoy sex for what it was, rather than what I expected it to be. It’s a bit of a mental shift, but it worked for me.
I also suggest taking a step back from sex if it feels like it’s adding pressure. Sometimes, taking a breather and reconnecting emotionally outside the bedroom can reignite that passion. Have fun with each other in other ways—laugh, cuddle, go on dates—things that can help you bond again without the pressure of performance.
If you do bring it up to your boyfriend, I think it’ll help to make it a conversation where both of you can be open about your feelings. It’s a sensitive topic, but if you approach it as a way to strengthen your connection, it could actually bring you closer.
Another thing that really helped was taking the focus off orgasm altogether. I stopped thinking about the finish line and started paying more attention to how the experience felt in the moment. Trying to enjoy each sensation, without rushing to the climax, helped me relax and enjoy sex for what it was, rather than what I expected it to be. It’s a bit of a mental shift, but it worked for me.
I also suggest taking a step back from sex if it feels like it’s adding pressure. Sometimes, taking a breather and reconnecting emotionally outside the bedroom can reignite that passion. Have fun with each other in other ways—laugh, cuddle, go on dates—things that can help you bond again without the pressure of performance.
If you do bring it up to your boyfriend, I think it’ll help to make it a conversation where both of you can be open about your feelings. It’s a sensitive topic, but if you approach it as a way to strengthen your connection, it could actually bring you closer.