01-24-2025, 11:23 AM
I’ve definitely been in your shoes before. After a stressful period in my life, I also struggled to reach orgasm during sex, even though everything else felt perfect. I remember feeling like my body was betraying me, which only made the frustration worse. One thing I learned is that sometimes the stress you’re carrying doesn’t show up as anxiety during the moment but rather in the physical act of sex itself. It’s like your body is still holding on to that tension without you even realizing it.
I tried a couple of things that helped. First, I started focusing more on the emotional connection during sex rather than the end goal of orgasm. When I wasn’t so fixated on "finishing," I noticed that I was more relaxed and could actually enjoy the moment more. It’s counterintuitive, but giving yourself permission to not reach orgasm sometimes can take the pressure off and make it happen naturally.
As for talking to my partner, I found that being open and vulnerable really helped us reconnect. I told him that it wasn’t his fault, but that I was struggling and needed his patience. He was incredibly understanding, and that made a huge difference in how I felt about the situation. No one likes feeling broken, but your partner likely wants to help, and communication can make a world of difference.
Lastly, I’d recommend working on some personal self-care routines outside the bedroom, like regular exercise, meditation, or even therapy if you think there might be emotional stuff lingering from those tough months. It’s all connected.
I tried a couple of things that helped. First, I started focusing more on the emotional connection during sex rather than the end goal of orgasm. When I wasn’t so fixated on "finishing," I noticed that I was more relaxed and could actually enjoy the moment more. It’s counterintuitive, but giving yourself permission to not reach orgasm sometimes can take the pressure off and make it happen naturally.
As for talking to my partner, I found that being open and vulnerable really helped us reconnect. I told him that it wasn’t his fault, but that I was struggling and needed his patience. He was incredibly understanding, and that made a huge difference in how I felt about the situation. No one likes feeling broken, but your partner likely wants to help, and communication can make a world of difference.
Lastly, I’d recommend working on some personal self-care routines outside the bedroom, like regular exercise, meditation, or even therapy if you think there might be emotional stuff lingering from those tough months. It’s all connected.