01-24-2025, 11:23 AM
Hey, I completely understand where you're coming from. I’ve been in a similar situation, and it’s super frustrating when everything seems right, but that orgasm just won’t come. I had a phase a while back where I couldn’t seem to finish no matter how great the sex was. For me, it turned out to be a mix of mental and physical stress. I was dealing with a lot at work, and my body was tense, even when I thought I was relaxed. I had to really focus on unwinding before sex, maybe through meditation or deep breathing. Once I started doing that, things started to change.
Another thing that helped was communicating with my partner. I know it can feel awkward, but if your boyfriend is as attentive as you say, he’s likely more than willing to help out and support you through this. It’s less about him doing something wrong and more about finding what works for you now. If you can open up about the stress and pressure you're feeling, it could relieve a lot of that tension.
I also recommend trying different forms of self-exploration, like experimenting with new techniques or toys. Sometimes the familiarity of our go-to methods can make us a little too reliant on them, and exploring something new can help reawaken that spark. It might be worth trying a few things on your own to see what triggers that sensation again.
Finally, don’t put too much pressure on yourself. I know it’s frustrating, but our bodies change over time, and sometimes things just need a little more patience. You’ll get there.
Another thing that helped was communicating with my partner. I know it can feel awkward, but if your boyfriend is as attentive as you say, he’s likely more than willing to help out and support you through this. It’s less about him doing something wrong and more about finding what works for you now. If you can open up about the stress and pressure you're feeling, it could relieve a lot of that tension.
I also recommend trying different forms of self-exploration, like experimenting with new techniques or toys. Sometimes the familiarity of our go-to methods can make us a little too reliant on them, and exploring something new can help reawaken that spark. It might be worth trying a few things on your own to see what triggers that sensation again.
Finally, don’t put too much pressure on yourself. I know it’s frustrating, but our bodies change over time, and sometimes things just need a little more patience. You’ll get there.