01-24-2025, 11:20 AM
First off, you’re not alone in this—it’s a much more common experience than people realize. It’s great that you’ve done some research, but remember, everyone’s body is unique. One thing that helped me was incorporating toys into our intimacy. A small G-spot vibrator can be an excellent tool for pinpointing what works for your body. You can use it solo or together with your boyfriend to explore different sensations without the trial-and-error pressure of relying solely on positions.
Speaking of positions, have you tried variations of missionary that allow for a tilted pelvis? For example, putting a pillow under your hips can elevate your pelvis, which changes the angle of penetration. This small adjustment made a noticeable difference for me. Pairing this with slow, intentional thrusts rather than fast ones can help build sensation. Angles really are everything, so keep experimenting until you find what works best for you.
Another tip is to guide your boyfriend’s hands during foreplay. It’s not always easy to verbalize what feels good, but physically guiding him can help both of you learn in a more natural and non-intimidating way. Take it slow, and don’t be afraid to pause and adjust as needed. Sometimes, it’s those small tweaks that unlock entirely new levels of pleasure.
Finally, try not to compare your experience to others or the “ideal” way sex is supposed to feel. It’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking there’s something wrong if you’re not having mind-blowing orgasms right away. The truth is, it’s all about what feels good for you, and that’s a process of discovery. Enjoy that journey with your boyfriend—it’s a chance to grow closer and more in tune with each other.
Speaking of positions, have you tried variations of missionary that allow for a tilted pelvis? For example, putting a pillow under your hips can elevate your pelvis, which changes the angle of penetration. This small adjustment made a noticeable difference for me. Pairing this with slow, intentional thrusts rather than fast ones can help build sensation. Angles really are everything, so keep experimenting until you find what works best for you.
Another tip is to guide your boyfriend’s hands during foreplay. It’s not always easy to verbalize what feels good, but physically guiding him can help both of you learn in a more natural and non-intimidating way. Take it slow, and don’t be afraid to pause and adjust as needed. Sometimes, it’s those small tweaks that unlock entirely new levels of pleasure.
Finally, try not to compare your experience to others or the “ideal” way sex is supposed to feel. It’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking there’s something wrong if you’re not having mind-blowing orgasms right away. The truth is, it’s all about what feels good for you, and that’s a process of discovery. Enjoy that journey with your boyfriend—it’s a chance to grow closer and more in tune with each other.