01-24-2025, 11:20 AM
I totally get where you're coming from. Communication is such a critical part of overcoming challenges like this, but it’s also one of the hardest things to navigate when it comes to intimacy. My advice? Don’t be afraid to talk openly with your boyfriend about what you’re feeling and what you’d like to try. It might feel a little awkward at first, but setting the stage for honest conversations can make a world of difference. Sometimes even just expressing your frustrations can ease the tension and make exploring together less stressful.
When it comes to positions, I’ve personally found that the “woman on top” position can be a game-changer, but only if you’re fully in control of the rhythm and angle. For me, leaning slightly forward while maintaining a steady, grinding motion rather than fast thrusting helped hit the right spot. It’s less about depth and more about consistent pressure on the front wall of the vagina. Experimenting with the angle of your pelvis and making slight adjustments as you go can work wonders.
Also, don’t underestimate the power of incorporating hands. My partner and I discovered that using fingers before intercourse to find what feels good really helped us understand what works for me. Like you mentioned, the “come here” motion is an excellent starting point. Once you figure out what sensations feel pleasurable, it becomes easier to communicate those needs during intercourse.
Lastly, try to focus on the journey rather than the destination. I know it’s easier said than done, but putting too much pressure on yourself to achieve orgasm can sometimes block your ability to relax and enjoy the process. Intimacy isn’t just about reaching a climax; it’s also about the connection and shared experience. Once you let go of the stress of “figuring it out,” you might find it happens more naturally.
When it comes to positions, I’ve personally found that the “woman on top” position can be a game-changer, but only if you’re fully in control of the rhythm and angle. For me, leaning slightly forward while maintaining a steady, grinding motion rather than fast thrusting helped hit the right spot. It’s less about depth and more about consistent pressure on the front wall of the vagina. Experimenting with the angle of your pelvis and making slight adjustments as you go can work wonders.
Also, don’t underestimate the power of incorporating hands. My partner and I discovered that using fingers before intercourse to find what feels good really helped us understand what works for me. Like you mentioned, the “come here” motion is an excellent starting point. Once you figure out what sensations feel pleasurable, it becomes easier to communicate those needs during intercourse.
Lastly, try to focus on the journey rather than the destination. I know it’s easier said than done, but putting too much pressure on yourself to achieve orgasm can sometimes block your ability to relax and enjoy the process. Intimacy isn’t just about reaching a climax; it’s also about the connection and shared experience. Once you let go of the stress of “figuring it out,” you might find it happens more naturally.