I'm demisexual and have never experienced orgasm, is it related?

[antonio123]

I can relate to so much of what you wrote. I’ve struggled with feeling “broken” for years because I also find it difficult to orgasm, even with someone I deeply love. I’m not demisexual, but I do think emotional intimacy plays a much larger role for me than it does for most people. Without it, I don’t feel aroused at all.

I think it’s really brave of you to talk about this openly. So many people suffer in silence because there’s this societal pressure to act like sex is always easy and amazing for everyone. But the truth is, a lot of people face challenges like yours—they’re just too afraid to admit it.

Have you and your partner ever tried incorporating mindfulness or guided exercises into your intimacy? Sometimes slowing things way down and focusing on each moment—rather than the outcome—can make a huge difference. It’s about being present with each other and finding joy in the process, even if it doesn’t lead to an orgasm.

Please don’t lose hope. You’re not broken, and you’re not alone. Everyone’s journey with intimacy is different, and what matters most is that you’re being honest with yourself and your partner. That level of vulnerability and self-awareness is something to be proud of.