01-24-2025, 11:15 AM
Your post really resonated with me, and I can relate to some parts of your experience. I’m not demisexual, but I’ve had long periods in my life where I struggled with orgasm, and it left me feeling like there was something wrong with me. For me, it turned out to be a combination of stress and hormones. Once I started addressing those, I saw some improvement—but it was definitely a process.
I think you’re asking the right questions by wondering if this could be hormonal or anxiety-related. Have you ever had your hormone levels checked? Things like low testosterone or even thyroid issues can sometimes play a role in sexual response. If you haven’t already, talking to a doctor who specializes in sexual health could be really helpful.
On the psychological side, I also wonder if there’s a layer of pressure you’re feeling, even if it’s unintentional. Sometimes, the more you focus on trying to experience something, the harder it becomes to let go and just be in the moment. It’s like trying to fall asleep when you’re thinking too much about falling asleep—it almost never works.
It’s great that you have such a supportive partner. Maybe taking orgasm off the table entirely for a while could ease some of the mental load. Focus on what feels good without any specific goal. Intimacy isn’t always about hitting a peak—it’s about the connection, and it sounds like you’re already great at building that.
I think you’re asking the right questions by wondering if this could be hormonal or anxiety-related. Have you ever had your hormone levels checked? Things like low testosterone or even thyroid issues can sometimes play a role in sexual response. If you haven’t already, talking to a doctor who specializes in sexual health could be really helpful.
On the psychological side, I also wonder if there’s a layer of pressure you’re feeling, even if it’s unintentional. Sometimes, the more you focus on trying to experience something, the harder it becomes to let go and just be in the moment. It’s like trying to fall asleep when you’re thinking too much about falling asleep—it almost never works.
It’s great that you have such a supportive partner. Maybe taking orgasm off the table entirely for a while could ease some of the mental load. Focus on what feels good without any specific goal. Intimacy isn’t always about hitting a peak—it’s about the connection, and it sounds like you’re already great at building that.