01-24-2025, 11:15 AM
Hey there, I just want to say thank you for sharing your story—it takes courage to open up about something so deeply personal. I’m not demisexual, but I do relate to the idea that emotional connection plays a massive role in intimacy. I’ve noticed that when I’m not emotionally invested in a partner, physical intimacy feels hollow and mechanical, almost like it’s just a task to check off.
For you, being demisexual might mean that the emotional connection isn’t just part of the equation—it’s the foundation for experiencing arousal and pleasure. That’s not a bad thing; it’s just different. It sounds like you and your partner have an incredible bond, which is amazing. Maybe focusing on deepening that emotional connection even further could open new doors. Sometimes exploring non-sexual physical intimacy, like cuddling or even just talking while holding hands, can spark new feelings that you didn’t expect.
On the flip side, have you ever thought about working with a sex therapist? A professional might help you navigate whether this is tied to your demisexuality, a psychological block, or something physical. I’ve heard of people uncovering so much about themselves through therapy, including things they never knew were barriers to their pleasure.
At the end of the day, you’re not broken. Your story is unique, and your experience matters. Society has this weird obsession with orgasms as the ultimate goal of intimacy, but intimacy itself is so much more than that. If you never experience orgasm, it doesn’t mean you’re missing out on love or connection—it just means your journey looks different from someone else’s.
For you, being demisexual might mean that the emotional connection isn’t just part of the equation—it’s the foundation for experiencing arousal and pleasure. That’s not a bad thing; it’s just different. It sounds like you and your partner have an incredible bond, which is amazing. Maybe focusing on deepening that emotional connection even further could open new doors. Sometimes exploring non-sexual physical intimacy, like cuddling or even just talking while holding hands, can spark new feelings that you didn’t expect.
On the flip side, have you ever thought about working with a sex therapist? A professional might help you navigate whether this is tied to your demisexuality, a psychological block, or something physical. I’ve heard of people uncovering so much about themselves through therapy, including things they never knew were barriers to their pleasure.
At the end of the day, you’re not broken. Your story is unique, and your experience matters. Society has this weird obsession with orgasms as the ultimate goal of intimacy, but intimacy itself is so much more than that. If you never experience orgasm, it doesn’t mean you’re missing out on love or connection—it just means your journey looks different from someone else’s.