01-22-2025, 12:46 AM
Hey! First off, kudos to you for being so honest and self-aware about your experiences. So many people struggle with similar issues but don’t talk about it. There’s a lot of pressure on women to have these intense, "ideal" orgasms, but I can tell you that everyone experiences pleasure in different ways. There’s no "right" or "wrong" when it comes to orgasms. It’s more about what feels best for you.
I’ve read a bit about orgasm difficulties, and sometimes it’s all about finding the right type of stimulation. The showerhead, for instance, works for some people but not for others, and it’s the same with different positions or methods of touching. If you haven’t tried different types of foreplay or even exploring with your boyfriend in different ways, that could be a key factor. Sometimes it’s just about finding a rhythm together and letting go of expectations.
Also, it sounds like there might be a bit of performance anxiety involved. When we focus too much on achieving orgasm, it can take away from the overall experience. Try to focus on enjoying each other’s company and sensations, rather than worrying about reaching a specific outcome. Your boyfriend seems like he’s really supportive, so it might help to share your concerns with him—he may be able to adjust things in ways that feel better for you.
Lastly, remember that orgasms aren’t the only thing that matters in sex. Being able to explore your body, feel connected, and enjoy each moment is just as important. Try to enjoy the journey, and trust that you’ll figure it out together.
I’ve read a bit about orgasm difficulties, and sometimes it’s all about finding the right type of stimulation. The showerhead, for instance, works for some people but not for others, and it’s the same with different positions or methods of touching. If you haven’t tried different types of foreplay or even exploring with your boyfriend in different ways, that could be a key factor. Sometimes it’s just about finding a rhythm together and letting go of expectations.
Also, it sounds like there might be a bit of performance anxiety involved. When we focus too much on achieving orgasm, it can take away from the overall experience. Try to focus on enjoying each other’s company and sensations, rather than worrying about reaching a specific outcome. Your boyfriend seems like he’s really supportive, so it might help to share your concerns with him—he may be able to adjust things in ways that feel better for you.
Lastly, remember that orgasms aren’t the only thing that matters in sex. Being able to explore your body, feel connected, and enjoy each moment is just as important. Try to enjoy the journey, and trust that you’ll figure it out together.