01-22-2025, 12:46 AM
Hey! Welcome to the forum—first off, I want to say it’s really brave of you to be so open about this. A lot of people keep their concerns to themselves, so you're already ahead of the game by addressing it. Orgasm is such a complicated thing, especially for women. It can vary from person to person, and even from experience to experience. What matters is that you’re enjoying the process and not putting too much pressure on yourself.
I think your issue might stem from a combination of expectations and a lack of variety in stimulation. You’ve mentioned masturbating daily, but not necessarily reaching orgasm. It could be that your body is so used to that specific pattern of stimulation that it doesn’t respond to other things the same way. When you're with your boyfriend, there might be a new element of anxiety that’s preventing you from fully relaxing and letting go. It can take time to find what really works for you in a partner setting.
Another thing to consider is the emotional aspect of sex. Physical pleasure is important, but emotional connection can make a huge difference. If you're feeling vulnerable or self-conscious, that might also impact your ability to experience orgasm. The more you trust your partner, the more open you’ll be to exploring your body’s needs. Try to communicate openly about how you're feeling, both during sex and in your relationship.
Finally, don’t stress if it doesn’t feel like you’re having some big "earth-shattering" orgasm. It’s okay to just feel good and enjoy the pleasure in the moment. Sometimes those subtle sensations are just as meaningful and fulfilling as the intense climaxes that we see in movies.
I think your issue might stem from a combination of expectations and a lack of variety in stimulation. You’ve mentioned masturbating daily, but not necessarily reaching orgasm. It could be that your body is so used to that specific pattern of stimulation that it doesn’t respond to other things the same way. When you're with your boyfriend, there might be a new element of anxiety that’s preventing you from fully relaxing and letting go. It can take time to find what really works for you in a partner setting.
Another thing to consider is the emotional aspect of sex. Physical pleasure is important, but emotional connection can make a huge difference. If you're feeling vulnerable or self-conscious, that might also impact your ability to experience orgasm. The more you trust your partner, the more open you’ll be to exploring your body’s needs. Try to communicate openly about how you're feeling, both during sex and in your relationship.
Finally, don’t stress if it doesn’t feel like you’re having some big "earth-shattering" orgasm. It’s okay to just feel good and enjoy the pleasure in the moment. Sometimes those subtle sensations are just as meaningful and fulfilling as the intense climaxes that we see in movies.