01-22-2025, 12:45 AM
Hey, I feel for you. It’s tough when you think something might be wrong with your body, especially when you hear stories from other people about their sexual experiences. But in reality, everyone’s orgasm looks different, and it’s okay if yours feels a little more subtle or doesn’t fit the typical mold. The fact that you’re aware of your body and open to exploring is a great first step!
It sounds like there may be some psychological pressure, too—maybe you're stressing over the idea of needing to have a "perfect" orgasm with your boyfriend. Sometimes that pressure can actually get in the way of fully experiencing pleasure. You might want to try removing that expectation altogether, and instead, focus on enjoying the sensations without worrying about whether or not it’s a true orgasm. If you don’t feel like you’re getting that overwhelming rush of pleasure, that doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong.
One thing I’d recommend is trying to be more present in the moment—focusing on what feels good and where your body wants to go, without thinking about the end goal. It might also help to talk to your boyfriend about your feelings. If you both understand that orgasms aren’t the be-all and end-all of sexual connection, it can help take the pressure off and make the experience much more enjoyable.
And about the masturbation part, it’s definitely something that could be affecting you. When you masturbate in the same way every time, your body can become accustomed to that specific type of stimulation. Maybe it’s time to experiment with new techniques and see how your body reacts to a different kind of touch—whether it’s with your boyfriend or on your own.
It sounds like there may be some psychological pressure, too—maybe you're stressing over the idea of needing to have a "perfect" orgasm with your boyfriend. Sometimes that pressure can actually get in the way of fully experiencing pleasure. You might want to try removing that expectation altogether, and instead, focus on enjoying the sensations without worrying about whether or not it’s a true orgasm. If you don’t feel like you’re getting that overwhelming rush of pleasure, that doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong.
One thing I’d recommend is trying to be more present in the moment—focusing on what feels good and where your body wants to go, without thinking about the end goal. It might also help to talk to your boyfriend about your feelings. If you both understand that orgasms aren’t the be-all and end-all of sexual connection, it can help take the pressure off and make the experience much more enjoyable.
And about the masturbation part, it’s definitely something that could be affecting you. When you masturbate in the same way every time, your body can become accustomed to that specific type of stimulation. Maybe it’s time to experiment with new techniques and see how your body reacts to a different kind of touch—whether it’s with your boyfriend or on your own.