01-22-2025, 12:45 AM
Hey! I totally get where you’re coming from. The pressure to have a "perfect" orgasm is real, but it’s important to remember that orgasms don’t always look the same, especially for women. Some people experience those intense, earth-shattering climaxes, and others may feel a subtler sense of pleasure. Neither is wrong! It’s all about what feels right for you.
I would suggest trying not to focus on the idea of "squirting" or a "G-spot orgasm." Those are often portrayed in media as the ultimate experiences, but that doesn’t mean they’re necessary for a fulfilling sexual experience. It might help to explore different types of stimulation with your boyfriend—like focusing on your clitoris, trying different positions, or maybe even incorporating toys. Sometimes the key is exploring new sensations rather than trying to achieve a specific outcome.
Also, don’t discount the emotional connection you have with your boyfriend. Being emotionally close can lead to a much deeper connection during sex, which can sometimes make orgasms feel less like a physical thing and more of an overall experience. When you’re relaxed and not stressing about performance, your body can respond more naturally.
Lastly, it’s super common for people to feel like they aren’t orgasming during masturbation either. Sometimes it’s about experimenting with different techniques or even taking the pressure off yourself. If you're enjoying the process without focusing on the end result, that can be just as satisfying.
I would suggest trying not to focus on the idea of "squirting" or a "G-spot orgasm." Those are often portrayed in media as the ultimate experiences, but that doesn’t mean they’re necessary for a fulfilling sexual experience. It might help to explore different types of stimulation with your boyfriend—like focusing on your clitoris, trying different positions, or maybe even incorporating toys. Sometimes the key is exploring new sensations rather than trying to achieve a specific outcome.
Also, don’t discount the emotional connection you have with your boyfriend. Being emotionally close can lead to a much deeper connection during sex, which can sometimes make orgasms feel less like a physical thing and more of an overall experience. When you’re relaxed and not stressing about performance, your body can respond more naturally.
Lastly, it’s super common for people to feel like they aren’t orgasming during masturbation either. Sometimes it’s about experimenting with different techniques or even taking the pressure off yourself. If you're enjoying the process without focusing on the end result, that can be just as satisfying.