01-22-2025, 12:45 AM
Hey there! First off, I just want to say that you're not alone. It’s actually more common than you might think to be unsure about whether you’re really experiencing orgasms. There’s so much emphasis on what "should" happen, but everyone’s body is different. It’s great that you’re being open about it, and that your boyfriend is supportive. The fact that you’re both willing to explore and communicate is huge!
It sounds like you might be experiencing a form of "orgasmic plateau," where your body gets close to that feeling but doesn't quite reach the full experience. This could be from not having found what truly works for you yet, or maybe you need more time to discover how your body responds with a partner. The key thing is to not put too much pressure on yourself. Sexual pleasure doesn’t have to look a certain way. Sometimes it’s about being in tune with what feels good, not about reaching a certain "goal."
Masturbating daily can be great for self-discovery, but it might also be causing some desensitization. Your body might be getting used to a certain type of stimulation, so it’s harder to get there with different experiences, like with your boyfriend. Have you tried exploring new techniques or even incorporating different sensations? Sometimes switching things up can trigger a different response.
If you're concerned about not having a "profound" orgasm, I’d recommend exploring the idea that sexual pleasure is more about connection and feeling comfortable in your own skin. Relax, enjoy the experience, and let go of the need to compare yourself to others or to some idea of what an orgasm "should" be like. You’re doing just fine!
It sounds like you might be experiencing a form of "orgasmic plateau," where your body gets close to that feeling but doesn't quite reach the full experience. This could be from not having found what truly works for you yet, or maybe you need more time to discover how your body responds with a partner. The key thing is to not put too much pressure on yourself. Sexual pleasure doesn’t have to look a certain way. Sometimes it’s about being in tune with what feels good, not about reaching a certain "goal."
Masturbating daily can be great for self-discovery, but it might also be causing some desensitization. Your body might be getting used to a certain type of stimulation, so it’s harder to get there with different experiences, like with your boyfriend. Have you tried exploring new techniques or even incorporating different sensations? Sometimes switching things up can trigger a different response.
If you're concerned about not having a "profound" orgasm, I’d recommend exploring the idea that sexual pleasure is more about connection and feeling comfortable in your own skin. Relax, enjoy the experience, and let go of the need to compare yourself to others or to some idea of what an orgasm "should" be like. You’re doing just fine!