01-22-2025, 12:42 AM
I totally get where you're coming from. When I’m masturbating, it’s so much easier for me to orgasm. I can control everything: the pressure, the speed, the rhythm. It’s just all about me and what feels right. But when I’m with a partner, especially during intercourse, it’s a different story. It’s not that I don’t enjoy it – I do – but sometimes the sensations are just too intense. I get close, but I can’t seem to finish unless someone else is driving the action. That’s when I tend to get frustrated. I think there’s definitely something about the dynamic of being in charge versus surrendering that plays into it.
I've also noticed that certain positions make it harder to finish. For example, when I’m on top, I feel like I’m trying to concentrate on keeping a rhythm, but I’m also caught up in the sensation and not fully focused. That’s when I need a little help – maybe from extra clitoral stimulation or changing positions to something more comfortable. I think it's about finding the balance between control and relaxation. Have you tried experimenting with switching things up, or talking to your partner about how they can help you get to that point?
One thing I’ve found helpful is just being more open with my partner about what feels good. Sometimes they don’t know exactly what I need until I communicate it. I’ve found that a little extra foreplay or a different type of touch can make a huge difference. In fact, adding a little pressure or slower movements at the right time can sometimes help me get over the edge. I’ve also learned that it’s okay not to climax every time. Sometimes the experience itself is enjoyable enough without reaching that final moment.
I think the key is to not put too much pressure on yourself. If orgasm doesn’t happen, that’s fine. The most important thing is enjoying the moment and making sure both you and your partner are comfortable. Plus, it’s always helpful to experiment together to find what works best. I’ve had the best results when I just let go of expectations and let the experience unfold naturally.
I've also noticed that certain positions make it harder to finish. For example, when I’m on top, I feel like I’m trying to concentrate on keeping a rhythm, but I’m also caught up in the sensation and not fully focused. That’s when I need a little help – maybe from extra clitoral stimulation or changing positions to something more comfortable. I think it's about finding the balance between control and relaxation. Have you tried experimenting with switching things up, or talking to your partner about how they can help you get to that point?
One thing I’ve found helpful is just being more open with my partner about what feels good. Sometimes they don’t know exactly what I need until I communicate it. I’ve found that a little extra foreplay or a different type of touch can make a huge difference. In fact, adding a little pressure or slower movements at the right time can sometimes help me get over the edge. I’ve also learned that it’s okay not to climax every time. Sometimes the experience itself is enjoyable enough without reaching that final moment.
I think the key is to not put too much pressure on yourself. If orgasm doesn’t happen, that’s fine. The most important thing is enjoying the moment and making sure both you and your partner are comfortable. Plus, it’s always helpful to experiment together to find what works best. I’ve had the best results when I just let go of expectations and let the experience unfold naturally.