01-22-2025, 12:42 AM
Honestly, I used to be really frustrated by the fact that I couldn’t orgasm through penetration alone. But as I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized that it’s just the way my body works. Many women experience this, and it’s perfectly fine. I’ve come to terms with the fact that clitoral stimulation is essential for me to orgasm, and I’ve learned to incorporate it into my sex life in a way that feels natural.
One of the best things I did was communicate with my partner about what I need. Early on, I thought I had to just “make it work” and somehow force myself to enjoy penetration alone, but that wasn’t helping anyone. Once I was open about needing more direct stimulation, things started to flow much better.
In terms of positions, I’ve found that doggy style and cowgirl really help me. When I’m on top, I can control the speed and depth, and I get a lot more sensation. But also, a lot of the time, we’ll add in a vibrator or my partner will use his hands to stimulate my clit during sex, which makes all the difference.
At the end of the day, it’s about discovering what makes you feel good and embracing it. If penetration isn’t the way for you, that’s completely okay. We all have our unique preferences, and sex should be about mutual enjoyment and connection.
One of the best things I did was communicate with my partner about what I need. Early on, I thought I had to just “make it work” and somehow force myself to enjoy penetration alone, but that wasn’t helping anyone. Once I was open about needing more direct stimulation, things started to flow much better.
In terms of positions, I’ve found that doggy style and cowgirl really help me. When I’m on top, I can control the speed and depth, and I get a lot more sensation. But also, a lot of the time, we’ll add in a vibrator or my partner will use his hands to stimulate my clit during sex, which makes all the difference.
At the end of the day, it’s about discovering what makes you feel good and embracing it. If penetration isn’t the way for you, that’s completely okay. We all have our unique preferences, and sex should be about mutual enjoyment and connection.