01-22-2025, 12:41 AM
I totally get where you’re coming from. For a long time, I thought I was the only one who couldn’t reach orgasm just from penetration. Like, I’d be with someone, and everything felt good, but it just didn’t bring me to that peak. I’ve learned a lot about my body over the years, and one thing I realized is that penetration alone just doesn’t cut it for me. The clit plays such a huge role in my pleasure, and without direct stimulation, I just don’t reach that point.
What really helped me was learning how to communicate with my partner. Telling them that I needed some extra attention to that area—whether it’s with their fingers or a toy—made a big difference. Plus, experimenting with different positions also helped. I find that when we try positions where I can control the angle a bit more, like cowgirl, I get a lot more pleasure.
It’s also important to focus on relaxation. The more stressed or rushed I am, the harder it is to let go. For me, foreplay is a huge factor. The more time I get to be aroused before penetration, the better everything feels. I wouldn’t say there’s a magic solution, but a mix of patience, communication, and exploration has made a world of difference.
Finally, I learned not to be so hard on myself. Just because I don’t orgasm through penetration doesn’t mean I’m missing out on something. Everyone’s body is different, and what matters most is that I’m enjoying myself. The orgasm will come when everything is in sync.
What really helped me was learning how to communicate with my partner. Telling them that I needed some extra attention to that area—whether it’s with their fingers or a toy—made a big difference. Plus, experimenting with different positions also helped. I find that when we try positions where I can control the angle a bit more, like cowgirl, I get a lot more pleasure.
It’s also important to focus on relaxation. The more stressed or rushed I am, the harder it is to let go. For me, foreplay is a huge factor. The more time I get to be aroused before penetration, the better everything feels. I wouldn’t say there’s a magic solution, but a mix of patience, communication, and exploration has made a world of difference.
Finally, I learned not to be so hard on myself. Just because I don’t orgasm through penetration doesn’t mean I’m missing out on something. Everyone’s body is different, and what matters most is that I’m enjoying myself. The orgasm will come when everything is in sync.