01-22-2025, 12:39 AM
It’s obvious you’re dealing with a lot, and I just want to say that it’s okay to feel conflicted. It’s clear you care about J, but you’re also protecting yourself, which is totally understandable. Your past experiences have shaped your perspective, and there’s no shame in that.
One thing that stood out to me is how you’re considering all these different outcomes and trying to prepare for them. That’s smart, but don’t let overthinking paralyze you. Sometimes, the best thing you can do is take things one step at a time. Maybe instead of trying to figure out the whole relationship right now, you could focus on just enjoying the connection you have with J. See where it naturally leads, and give yourself permission to pause if things start feeling uncomfortable.
When it comes to the physical side of things, communication is going to be key. You might not be ready to share everything about your past, and that’s okay. But being honest about your current boundaries can help set the tone for how things move forward. If J is truly interested in you as a person, he’ll respect that and work with you to figure out a dynamic that works for both of you.
Remember, you’re not alone in this. A lot of people carry scars from their past, and they still find ways to build meaningful relationships. It’s not always easy, but it’s possible. Give yourself credit for how far you’ve come, and trust that you’ll figure this out, one step at a time.
One thing that stood out to me is how you’re considering all these different outcomes and trying to prepare for them. That’s smart, but don’t let overthinking paralyze you. Sometimes, the best thing you can do is take things one step at a time. Maybe instead of trying to figure out the whole relationship right now, you could focus on just enjoying the connection you have with J. See where it naturally leads, and give yourself permission to pause if things start feeling uncomfortable.
When it comes to the physical side of things, communication is going to be key. You might not be ready to share everything about your past, and that’s okay. But being honest about your current boundaries can help set the tone for how things move forward. If J is truly interested in you as a person, he’ll respect that and work with you to figure out a dynamic that works for both of you.
Remember, you’re not alone in this. A lot of people carry scars from their past, and they still find ways to build meaningful relationships. It’s not always easy, but it’s possible. Give yourself credit for how far you’ve come, and trust that you’ll figure this out, one step at a time.