01-22-2025, 12:36 AM
I’ve been in a similar spot, and it can feel like a dead end. One thing that helped me was stepping outside the box and exploring new ways to approach intimacy. You mentioned trying to make it “all about her” a few times, but maybe that’s part of the problem. Sometimes the more we focus on what we think our partner needs, the less we actually listen to what they’re saying—or not saying.
For instance, I found that my partner was really struggling with body image issues that I had no idea about. She didn’t feel sexy, so no amount of romance or effort on my part was going to change her mindset. Once I understood that, we were able to work on those insecurities together, and things slowly started to improve.
Another thing to consider is the mental load she might be carrying. If she’s dealing with health issues, work stress, or just general life fatigue, her libido is going to take a hit. Have you ever suggested something like meditation or couples yoga? It sounds cheesy, but sometimes reconnecting in a non-sexual, calming environment can do wonders for intimacy.
And listen, I get the temptation to look elsewhere. It’s hard not to notice when other women seem vibrant and sexually confident. But remember, what you’re seeing is the surface. The grass isn’t always greener, and chasing that high could leave you with regrets. Focus on what you can do to make things better with your wife before making any drastic decisions.
For instance, I found that my partner was really struggling with body image issues that I had no idea about. She didn’t feel sexy, so no amount of romance or effort on my part was going to change her mindset. Once I understood that, we were able to work on those insecurities together, and things slowly started to improve.
Another thing to consider is the mental load she might be carrying. If she’s dealing with health issues, work stress, or just general life fatigue, her libido is going to take a hit. Have you ever suggested something like meditation or couples yoga? It sounds cheesy, but sometimes reconnecting in a non-sexual, calming environment can do wonders for intimacy.
And listen, I get the temptation to look elsewhere. It’s hard not to notice when other women seem vibrant and sexually confident. But remember, what you’re seeing is the surface. The grass isn’t always greener, and chasing that high could leave you with regrets. Focus on what you can do to make things better with your wife before making any drastic decisions.