01-21-2025, 09:58 AM
Hey,
I'm new to the forum, and have a bit of an issue...
I'm 19, and with my first boyfriend. I waited until I met the right person to "do things with", and we're very happy together. I never realized, though, just how much of an issue it could be how I masturbate. A lot of my guy friends are impressed with how open I am about this stuff, but the truth is, I feel like my body is failing me.
I never thought I was BAD at masturbating... though I never read up on it much. A lot of the things that were "supposed to work" never really worked for me -- the shower head, among other things. Some do, but I'm confused about my "orgasms". I'm putting orgasms in quotes, because frankly, sometimes I don't know if I am REALLY truly orgasming, if ever.
I shake and shiver a little, and feel my thighs twitching, but as far as squirting (okay, I haven't had a gspot orgasm yet, maybe that'll help?) nada. Even the shivering comes when I'm just excited, and not necessarily because my body is at its full potential for pleasure. And also, I don't feel like it's some sort of PROFOUND feeling... like, I get to a fairly heightened pleasure, I shiver a little, and then my body stops wanting itself to be touched. Only once have I ever had something more profound, and I didn't do anything particularly different.
My boyfriend hasn't had loads of experience either, but he's open, outgoing in bed, and a quick learner; being with him is very pleasureable emotionally, and physically, and I'm extremely self conscious, so the fact that he gets me to play with him without thinking is amazing. I know he wants me to have profound orgasms, and I think he expects it. I'm beginning to wonder if I'm even orgasming at all, or something's missing.
Any girls wanna give me some advice?
I masturbate a LOT -- like, daily! -- but almost always not to orgasm... I feel like this is working against me, and I'm really very worried.
I'm new to the forum, and have a bit of an issue...
I'm 19, and with my first boyfriend. I waited until I met the right person to "do things with", and we're very happy together. I never realized, though, just how much of an issue it could be how I masturbate. A lot of my guy friends are impressed with how open I am about this stuff, but the truth is, I feel like my body is failing me.
I never thought I was BAD at masturbating... though I never read up on it much. A lot of the things that were "supposed to work" never really worked for me -- the shower head, among other things. Some do, but I'm confused about my "orgasms". I'm putting orgasms in quotes, because frankly, sometimes I don't know if I am REALLY truly orgasming, if ever.
I shake and shiver a little, and feel my thighs twitching, but as far as squirting (okay, I haven't had a gspot orgasm yet, maybe that'll help?) nada. Even the shivering comes when I'm just excited, and not necessarily because my body is at its full potential for pleasure. And also, I don't feel like it's some sort of PROFOUND feeling... like, I get to a fairly heightened pleasure, I shiver a little, and then my body stops wanting itself to be touched. Only once have I ever had something more profound, and I didn't do anything particularly different.
My boyfriend hasn't had loads of experience either, but he's open, outgoing in bed, and a quick learner; being with him is very pleasureable emotionally, and physically, and I'm extremely self conscious, so the fact that he gets me to play with him without thinking is amazing. I know he wants me to have profound orgasms, and I think he expects it. I'm beginning to wonder if I'm even orgasming at all, or something's missing.
Any girls wanna give me some advice?
I masturbate a LOT -- like, daily! -- but almost always not to orgasm... I feel like this is working against me, and I'm really very worried.