12-27-2024, 01:46 PM
I totally get where you’re coming from, man. It’s frustrating when something you enjoy—like sex—starts feeling more complicated than it should. First off, kudos to you for being open about your experience and looking for solutions. A lot of guys hesitate to talk about these things, but it’s the only way to find what works.
Desensitizing creams could be a good option, but you’ve got to use them carefully. Lidocaine-based creams like Promescent are popular, but make sure you apply a thin layer and let it absorb before getting started. If you don’t, there’s a chance the cream could transfer to your partner, which might make things less enjoyable for her. It’s all about finding the right balance—too much cream and you won’t feel anything, but the right amount could help you last longer without losing sensation entirely.
Condoms designed for endurance are another route. I’ve had good luck with Trojan Extended Pleasure—they’ve got a bit of numbing lubricant on the inside. It’s subtle, but it does the trick. Durex Performax is also worth a try. The best part is, you can experiment with these without making permanent changes to your routine. Sometimes even the act of trying something new boosts your confidence, which can make a big difference.
Lastly, think about your mindset. If you’re too focused on "lasting longer," it might make you more anxious. Try to shift your focus to enjoying the moment rather than worrying about how long you’re going. A combination of physical aids and mental techniques could be your best bet for finding that sweet spot where everything clicks.
Desensitizing creams could be a good option, but you’ve got to use them carefully. Lidocaine-based creams like Promescent are popular, but make sure you apply a thin layer and let it absorb before getting started. If you don’t, there’s a chance the cream could transfer to your partner, which might make things less enjoyable for her. It’s all about finding the right balance—too much cream and you won’t feel anything, but the right amount could help you last longer without losing sensation entirely.
Condoms designed for endurance are another route. I’ve had good luck with Trojan Extended Pleasure—they’ve got a bit of numbing lubricant on the inside. It’s subtle, but it does the trick. Durex Performax is also worth a try. The best part is, you can experiment with these without making permanent changes to your routine. Sometimes even the act of trying something new boosts your confidence, which can make a big difference.
Lastly, think about your mindset. If you’re too focused on "lasting longer," it might make you more anxious. Try to shift your focus to enjoying the moment rather than worrying about how long you’re going. A combination of physical aids and mental techniques could be your best bet for finding that sweet spot where everything clicks.