12-27-2024, 01:42 PM
I can totally relate to what you're saying. When I started focusing on controlling premature ejaculation, I thought it would revolutionize my sex life. In a way, it did—but not how I expected. Like you, I began to feel like sex became more about "doing it right" than actually enjoying the experience. I was so wrapped up in the techniques—breathing, pacing, and mental exercises—that I lost the raw, emotional connection I used to have with my partners.
One thing that helped me was stepping back and reassessing my mindset. Instead of seeing sex as something I had to "excel at," I tried to make it more playful and fun. For example, I started experimenting with more extended foreplay and non-penetrative activities to build intimacy. It took the pressure off and reminded me that there’s so much more to sex than the mechanics of intercourse.
I also realized that my partners picked up on my stress. Even if I didn’t say anything, they could feel that I was hyper-focused on performing rather than being present with them. That emotional distance affected both of us. Once I opened up about how I was feeling, it actually made things a lot better. They appreciated my honesty, and together, we found ways to make our time together more exciting and enjoyable.
Ultimately, I think it’s about finding balance. The techniques are great for control, but don’t let them overshadow the passion and connection. If you can integrate the two, you might rediscover the fun and spontaneity that made sex thrilling in the first place.
One thing that helped me was stepping back and reassessing my mindset. Instead of seeing sex as something I had to "excel at," I tried to make it more playful and fun. For example, I started experimenting with more extended foreplay and non-penetrative activities to build intimacy. It took the pressure off and reminded me that there’s so much more to sex than the mechanics of intercourse.
I also realized that my partners picked up on my stress. Even if I didn’t say anything, they could feel that I was hyper-focused on performing rather than being present with them. That emotional distance affected both of us. Once I opened up about how I was feeling, it actually made things a lot better. They appreciated my honesty, and together, we found ways to make our time together more exciting and enjoyable.
Ultimately, I think it’s about finding balance. The techniques are great for control, but don’t let them overshadow the passion and connection. If you can integrate the two, you might rediscover the fun and spontaneity that made sex thrilling in the first place.