12-27-2024, 01:35 PM
Hey man, I’ve been there—maybe not with an IUD situation, but I’ve definitely had painful experiences during sex that left a mental scar. It’s crazy how your brain holds onto that stuff, even when the physical issue is resolved. You’re not alone in this, and it’s totally something you can work through with the right approach.
One thing that helped me was building up trust with my partner again. We spent time reconnecting in ways that didn’t involve penetration, and that really helped take the pressure off. It might be worth stepping back from traditional sex for a bit and exploring other forms of intimacy. Things like mutual massage, kissing, or just spending time naked together can help you feel relaxed and safe again.
I also found that focusing on the positives helped a lot. Instead of dwelling on the fear of pain, try to redirect your thoughts to the things you enjoy during intimacy—your girlfriend’s scent, the way she touches you, or the sounds she makes. It might feel forced at first, but over time, your brain will start to replace the negative associations with positive ones.
If this still feels like a huge hurdle, don’t be afraid to seek professional help. A therapist who specializes in sexual health or anxiety can help you work through this. Sometimes just talking it out with someone who understands can be a huge relief. You’ve got this, man—it just takes time and patience.
One thing that helped me was building up trust with my partner again. We spent time reconnecting in ways that didn’t involve penetration, and that really helped take the pressure off. It might be worth stepping back from traditional sex for a bit and exploring other forms of intimacy. Things like mutual massage, kissing, or just spending time naked together can help you feel relaxed and safe again.
I also found that focusing on the positives helped a lot. Instead of dwelling on the fear of pain, try to redirect your thoughts to the things you enjoy during intimacy—your girlfriend’s scent, the way she touches you, or the sounds she makes. It might feel forced at first, but over time, your brain will start to replace the negative associations with positive ones.
If this still feels like a huge hurdle, don’t be afraid to seek professional help. A therapist who specializes in sexual health or anxiety can help you work through this. Sometimes just talking it out with someone who understands can be a huge relief. You’ve got this, man—it just takes time and patience.