12-27-2024, 01:31 PM
I get why this is such a frustrating situation. Painful sex isn’t something you just forget, even if the cause has been addressed. It’s like your brain is stuck in a loop, replaying that discomfort every time you try to relax. But the fact that you’re looking for ways to fix it means you’re already on the right path.
Have you tried shifting your focus to foreplay and non-penetrative activities? Taking penetration out of the picture for a little while could help you rebuild confidence without triggering that fear response. Think of it as hitting the reset button on your sex life—reconnecting in ways that feel completely safe and enjoyable.
You might also consider talking this through with your girlfriend. Let her know how much the experience impacted you and that you’re working to move past it. Having her on your side can make a big difference. She might even have some ideas for how to help you feel more comfortable and relaxed during intimacy.
And don’t forget to give yourself some grace. Rewiring these mental patterns takes time, but every small step forward is progress. If the issue persists, a therapist could help you work through the deeper layers of anxiety. You’ve got this, man—it’s just a matter of finding what works best for you.
Have you tried shifting your focus to foreplay and non-penetrative activities? Taking penetration out of the picture for a little while could help you rebuild confidence without triggering that fear response. Think of it as hitting the reset button on your sex life—reconnecting in ways that feel completely safe and enjoyable.
You might also consider talking this through with your girlfriend. Let her know how much the experience impacted you and that you’re working to move past it. Having her on your side can make a big difference. She might even have some ideas for how to help you feel more comfortable and relaxed during intimacy.
And don’t forget to give yourself some grace. Rewiring these mental patterns takes time, but every small step forward is progress. If the issue persists, a therapist could help you work through the deeper layers of anxiety. You’ve got this, man—it’s just a matter of finding what works best for you.