12-27-2024, 01:23 PM
I totally hear you on this, and I can see why you’re struggling to make sense of the situation. From what you’ve described, it doesn’t sound like you have a full-blown addiction, but I do think there’s a deeper issue with how your use of porn is affecting your relationship. It’s clear that you have a strong desire to maintain your marriage, and that’s a positive sign. It’s also great that you’re willing to talk to a counselor about it, even if you don’t think the porn is the root cause of the problem.
The fact that your wife feels hurt by your use of porn is a big deal, and it’s understandable that she’s threatening divorce. Porn might not seem like a big deal to you, but it’s affecting her emotionally, and that’s why it’s so important to address. The issue isn’t necessarily the porn itself, but how it fits into your relationship dynamics. It might be worth discussing ways to reconnect emotionally and sexually in a way that makes both of you feel valued.
I agree with what others have said—this isn’t about eliminating masturbation or porn entirely, but about finding a balance. You may need to find other ways to achieve sexual satisfaction without relying so heavily on porn. If you both work together, it’s possible to create a new dynamic that works for both of you. Maybe setting aside time for more intimate moments together could help improve both the emotional connection and the physical side of things.
Ultimately, therapy will help you both gain insight into how you’re each feeling and what needs to change. Be patient with yourself and with your wife, and keep focusing on the bigger picture: a healthier, more connected relationship.
The fact that your wife feels hurt by your use of porn is a big deal, and it’s understandable that she’s threatening divorce. Porn might not seem like a big deal to you, but it’s affecting her emotionally, and that’s why it’s so important to address. The issue isn’t necessarily the porn itself, but how it fits into your relationship dynamics. It might be worth discussing ways to reconnect emotionally and sexually in a way that makes both of you feel valued.
I agree with what others have said—this isn’t about eliminating masturbation or porn entirely, but about finding a balance. You may need to find other ways to achieve sexual satisfaction without relying so heavily on porn. If you both work together, it’s possible to create a new dynamic that works for both of you. Maybe setting aside time for more intimate moments together could help improve both the emotional connection and the physical side of things.
Ultimately, therapy will help you both gain insight into how you’re each feeling and what needs to change. Be patient with yourself and with your wife, and keep focusing on the bigger picture: a healthier, more connected relationship.