12-27-2024, 12:24 PM
Man, I’ve been there. When the physical side of a marriage starts to fade, it can feel like the relationship is losing its foundation. The worst part is feeling teased by the texts and promises that never actually lead to anything. It’s confusing and frustrating, but there’s usually more going on beneath the surface than meets the eye.
It sounds like your wife is sending mixed signals because she’s trying to balance her desire for intimacy with her current mental and physical state. Starting a 9-5 job can be a bigger adjustment than it seems, especially if it’s her first structured schedule like that. By the time she’s home, she might be too drained to act on the feelings she had earlier in the day.
I think a good place to start is by shifting the dynamic. Instead of focusing on what’s missing, focus on rebuilding the emotional connection. Do something small but thoughtful, like making her favorite meal or surprising her with something she loves. These little acts of care can help break the cycle of stress and remind her of the closeness you used to share.
At the same time, have an honest, empathetic conversation about how this is affecting you. Make it clear that you’re not blaming her, but that you want to find a way to work through this together. Sometimes, just knowing you’re both on the same team can help reignite the spark.
It sounds like your wife is sending mixed signals because she’s trying to balance her desire for intimacy with her current mental and physical state. Starting a 9-5 job can be a bigger adjustment than it seems, especially if it’s her first structured schedule like that. By the time she’s home, she might be too drained to act on the feelings she had earlier in the day.
I think a good place to start is by shifting the dynamic. Instead of focusing on what’s missing, focus on rebuilding the emotional connection. Do something small but thoughtful, like making her favorite meal or surprising her with something she loves. These little acts of care can help break the cycle of stress and remind her of the closeness you used to share.
At the same time, have an honest, empathetic conversation about how this is affecting you. Make it clear that you’re not blaming her, but that you want to find a way to work through this together. Sometimes, just knowing you’re both on the same team can help reignite the spark.