12-27-2024, 12:24 PM
This is a tough situation, man, and it’s easy to feel stuck. When sex disappears from a marriage, it can leave you feeling disconnected and even rejected. But from what you’ve said, it doesn’t sound like she’s lost interest in you entirely. Those texts and teases might be her way of saying she still wants you, even if she’s struggling to follow through.
I think one big factor here could be her energy levels. A new 9-5 job might not seem like a huge change, but it could be draining her more than you realize. Exhaustion, stress, and adjusting to a new routine can make intimacy feel like just another task on the to-do list, no matter how much she loves or desires you. It’s not personal—it’s just how stress can mess with people’s priorities.
What’s worked for me in a similar situation is focusing on creating moments of closeness that aren’t about sex. Take her out on a surprise date, plan something fun, or even just cuddle without expecting anything more. When the pressure is off, sometimes that’s when the intimacy starts to come back naturally.
Also, don’t be afraid to open up about how this is affecting you, but frame it as wanting to reconnect rather than pointing out what she’s not doing. A lot of times, these kinds of issues come down to communication. Once you both understand where the other is coming from, it becomes easier to work together on a solution.
I think one big factor here could be her energy levels. A new 9-5 job might not seem like a huge change, but it could be draining her more than you realize. Exhaustion, stress, and adjusting to a new routine can make intimacy feel like just another task on the to-do list, no matter how much she loves or desires you. It’s not personal—it’s just how stress can mess with people’s priorities.
What’s worked for me in a similar situation is focusing on creating moments of closeness that aren’t about sex. Take her out on a surprise date, plan something fun, or even just cuddle without expecting anything more. When the pressure is off, sometimes that’s when the intimacy starts to come back naturally.
Also, don’t be afraid to open up about how this is affecting you, but frame it as wanting to reconnect rather than pointing out what she’s not doing. A lot of times, these kinds of issues come down to communication. Once you both understand where the other is coming from, it becomes easier to work together on a solution.