12-27-2024, 12:24 PM
I totally get how you’re feeling—it’s like you’re being teased with promises that never materialize. That can be so emotionally draining, especially when it feels like you’re putting in the effort and not getting the same energy back. But from what you’ve shared, it doesn’t sound like her lack of follow-through is intentional. Life might just be hitting her harder than expected.
Starting a 9-5 job might be more exhausting for her than you realize, especially if she’s juggling other responsibilities at home. Mental and physical exhaustion can kill the mood, even if the desire is there earlier in the day. It’s not fair to you, but it might help to look at it as her struggling to adjust to this new routine rather than her intentionally withholding intimacy.
One thing that could help is shifting your focus to creating a more relaxed environment for her. Maybe she needs some help unwinding after work before she can even think about intimacy. This could mean spending time together without any sexual pressure—like cooking dinner together, watching a show, or even just giving her a massage. Small acts of care can go a long way in reigniting that spark.
Also, consider asking her directly what she thinks is going on. Be gentle, though—don’t make it about what she’s not doing but about how you both can work together to bring back the connection. Her response might surprise you. Sometimes, people don’t even realize how their actions are affecting their partner until it’s brought up in a safe, non-judgmental way.
Starting a 9-5 job might be more exhausting for her than you realize, especially if she’s juggling other responsibilities at home. Mental and physical exhaustion can kill the mood, even if the desire is there earlier in the day. It’s not fair to you, but it might help to look at it as her struggling to adjust to this new routine rather than her intentionally withholding intimacy.
One thing that could help is shifting your focus to creating a more relaxed environment for her. Maybe she needs some help unwinding after work before she can even think about intimacy. This could mean spending time together without any sexual pressure—like cooking dinner together, watching a show, or even just giving her a massage. Small acts of care can go a long way in reigniting that spark.
Also, consider asking her directly what she thinks is going on. Be gentle, though—don’t make it about what she’s not doing but about how you both can work together to bring back the connection. Her response might surprise you. Sometimes, people don’t even realize how their actions are affecting their partner until it’s brought up in a safe, non-judgmental way.