12-27-2024, 12:12 PM
Your post really resonated with me, and I just want to say, I think you’re being way too hard on yourself. It’s easy to spiral when you feel like you’re not meeting expectations—whether they’re from society, your friends, or even yourself. But the truth is, those expectations are often BS. Everyone’s timeline is different, and there’s no “right” way to go about life or relationships.
The HPV thing is tough, and I understand why it’s weighing on you. But dude, it’s not the end of the world. HPV is so common that most people don’t even realize they’ve had it. The fact that you’re aware and concerned about it shows you’re responsible and thoughtful, which is way more important than any stigma attached to it. A quick talk with a doctor might not fix everything overnight, but it could give you some peace of mind.
I think the desire to shut down your sex drive is more about trying to escape the pain you’re feeling. But pain isn’t something you can just “switch off.” What you can do, though, is focus on what you can control. Build a life you’re proud of—whether that’s through hobbies, fitness, travel, or anything else that lights you up. When you feel good about yourself and your life, the rest starts to fall into place naturally.
Also, don’t forget the importance of non-sexual connections. Friendships, family, even online communities like this one can offer a lot of support. You’re not broken, and you’re definitely not alone. Keep reminding yourself of that, and take things one step at a time.
The HPV thing is tough, and I understand why it’s weighing on you. But dude, it’s not the end of the world. HPV is so common that most people don’t even realize they’ve had it. The fact that you’re aware and concerned about it shows you’re responsible and thoughtful, which is way more important than any stigma attached to it. A quick talk with a doctor might not fix everything overnight, but it could give you some peace of mind.
I think the desire to shut down your sex drive is more about trying to escape the pain you’re feeling. But pain isn’t something you can just “switch off.” What you can do, though, is focus on what you can control. Build a life you’re proud of—whether that’s through hobbies, fitness, travel, or anything else that lights you up. When you feel good about yourself and your life, the rest starts to fall into place naturally.
Also, don’t forget the importance of non-sexual connections. Friendships, family, even online communities like this one can offer a lot of support. You’re not broken, and you’re definitely not alone. Keep reminding yourself of that, and take things one step at a time.