Different Levels Of Want

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so I have been in the relationship I am in now for about five years now. Like any relationship it has it's ups and it's downs. After such a long time we have grown closer "of course" and continue to move forward with the relationship at a good pace. The odd thing that I am finding after five years is that we always argue "not fight" over the same things. Work, Money, and sex which I find to be sort of strange in it's own right. Work really is something that comes up because well I am the only one working. Money is really under my control but I still hold a great deal of debt "from previous engagements" that I will probably never get out of until she gets a job. This all brings me to the topic of sex! Now living with someone who doesn't work, makes no income, and has a very low sex drive is difficult. I have dealt with it in my own way in that I meditate, try to keep to my own hobbies, and generally do what I can to accept that even after being pretty much the dominate in this relationship. That the one field of sex is always going to be the one thing I will never have control over.

So here in all that I question what is a guy like me supposed to do? If I have wants and most of them if not 95% of them are being meet but that stupid 5% "sex" isn't happening the way I want it too. What is a good way to go around it? Keep in mind I am a loyal guy and would never cheat. I have a very strict moral code also to always tell the truth so really that isn't a good answer. Thanks!