12-22-2024, 03:16 AM
I think a lot of this comes down to personal preference and the energy you’re both bringing to the table. I’ve always been more of a fan of things starting off a bit softer. For me, the gradual build-up adds excitement and tension, which makes it feel more satisfying when things do get harder. It’s almost like you’re slowly teasing each other, which I think is a big part of the experience. That slow transition from soft to hard gives you time to explore, learn what your partner likes, and really pay attention to their reactions.
There are definitely times when I’ve wanted things to go hard right away, though. Maybe it’s just the energy of the moment, or you’re both on the same page about jumping right into it. That instant change, the rawness of it, can be exhilarating. But for me, I think I enjoy the softness more because it feels more personal and tender, especially when I’m in a deeper relationship where intimacy is key.
That being said, I totally understand the appeal of wanting it to be hard from the get-go, especially if you’re with someone who’s more into that direct, no-nonsense approach. There’s no judgment in it; it’s just different preferences. The key, I think, is respecting each other’s desires and finding ways to meet in the middle, whether that means starting soft and building up or jumping straight to hard and fast.
Ultimately, it’s about mutual satisfaction. Everyone has their own rhythm, and the best experiences are the ones where both partners are in sync with what’s going on. There’s no right or wrong way to do it, as long as both people are enjoying the moment.
There are definitely times when I’ve wanted things to go hard right away, though. Maybe it’s just the energy of the moment, or you’re both on the same page about jumping right into it. That instant change, the rawness of it, can be exhilarating. But for me, I think I enjoy the softness more because it feels more personal and tender, especially when I’m in a deeper relationship where intimacy is key.
That being said, I totally understand the appeal of wanting it to be hard from the get-go, especially if you’re with someone who’s more into that direct, no-nonsense approach. There’s no judgment in it; it’s just different preferences. The key, I think, is respecting each other’s desires and finding ways to meet in the middle, whether that means starting soft and building up or jumping straight to hard and fast.
Ultimately, it’s about mutual satisfaction. Everyone has their own rhythm, and the best experiences are the ones where both partners are in sync with what’s going on. There’s no right or wrong way to do it, as long as both people are enjoying the moment.