12-22-2024, 02:53 AM
It sounds like you’re approaching this with a lot of care, which is great to see. A threesome is definitely a big step in any relationship, and I think it’s really important to go into it with clear communication. My girlfriend and I had a MFM threesome a while ago, and it was something we both wanted, but it required a lot of preparation beforehand. We made sure to talk through what we were both comfortable with, and we set boundaries and rules for the third person as well. It worked out, but I do agree that it’s essential to remain fluid and adaptable once it’s actually happening.
The emotional side of things is huge. I thought I was prepared for how I would feel, but emotions can catch you off guard. The biggest piece of advice I can give is to check in with each other not just before and during, but also afterward. There may be things that come up later that you didn’t anticipate, and you want to make sure you address them. If one partner feels uncomfortable or if it didn’t go as expected, having that conversation is vital to keep the relationship strong.
One of the things that worked for us was ensuring that the third person was someone we both felt comfortable with. I know a lot of people jump into threesomes with people they don’t know well, but I’d recommend going for someone you can trust, even if it’s just a casual acquaintance. Having that extra level of trust really helped the experience feel more secure and enjoyable.
Lastly, you’re right about making sure that both partners are doing it for the right reasons. It can’t just be about fulfilling a fantasy; it needs to be something you both want to explore together. Make sure that you’re not just pushing the idea because you think it’ll please your girlfriend. If she’s not fully into it, it could cause friction down the line. Keep communication open, and make sure it’s something that feels right for both of you.
The emotional side of things is huge. I thought I was prepared for how I would feel, but emotions can catch you off guard. The biggest piece of advice I can give is to check in with each other not just before and during, but also afterward. There may be things that come up later that you didn’t anticipate, and you want to make sure you address them. If one partner feels uncomfortable or if it didn’t go as expected, having that conversation is vital to keep the relationship strong.
One of the things that worked for us was ensuring that the third person was someone we both felt comfortable with. I know a lot of people jump into threesomes with people they don’t know well, but I’d recommend going for someone you can trust, even if it’s just a casual acquaintance. Having that extra level of trust really helped the experience feel more secure and enjoyable.
Lastly, you’re right about making sure that both partners are doing it for the right reasons. It can’t just be about fulfilling a fantasy; it needs to be something you both want to explore together. Make sure that you’re not just pushing the idea because you think it’ll please your girlfriend. If she’s not fully into it, it could cause friction down the line. Keep communication open, and make sure it’s something that feels right for both of you.