12-22-2024, 02:33 AM
I can definitely relate to the conflict you’re feeling. It’s such a tricky situation when the physical chemistry with an ex was off the charts, but the emotional or personal side of the relationship was toxic. It’s like you’re torn between craving something familiar and knowing that diving back into that situation could have unintended consequences. I’ve been in a similar spot before, and it’s not an easy decision to make.
The appeal of reaching out to someone you already know is undeniable. There’s no awkward first-time tension or having to explain what you like—it’s all already there. You can skip the small talk and dive straight into what you’re both good at. But the downside is that even if you’re totally over him emotionally, he might not be on the same page. Sometimes these things can stir up old feelings or reopen wounds that were better left healed.
You mentioned that he’s a pathological liar, which is a pretty big red flag. Even if you’re just looking for sex and nothing more, that kind of behavior can creep back in. He might take the opportunity to manipulate the situation or try to draw you back into a dynamic you’ve worked hard to leave behind. It’s worth considering whether the short-term satisfaction would be worth any potential fallout.
If you do decide to call him, I’d suggest setting clear boundaries from the start. Be upfront about what you want and don’t want, and make sure he’s on the same page. But honestly, it might be worth exploring other options—maybe someone new who can give you that same spark without the baggage. You deserve to feel good about the decisions you’re making, not conflicted or regretful.
The appeal of reaching out to someone you already know is undeniable. There’s no awkward first-time tension or having to explain what you like—it’s all already there. You can skip the small talk and dive straight into what you’re both good at. But the downside is that even if you’re totally over him emotionally, he might not be on the same page. Sometimes these things can stir up old feelings or reopen wounds that were better left healed.
You mentioned that he’s a pathological liar, which is a pretty big red flag. Even if you’re just looking for sex and nothing more, that kind of behavior can creep back in. He might take the opportunity to manipulate the situation or try to draw you back into a dynamic you’ve worked hard to leave behind. It’s worth considering whether the short-term satisfaction would be worth any potential fallout.
If you do decide to call him, I’d suggest setting clear boundaries from the start. Be upfront about what you want and don’t want, and make sure he’s on the same page. But honestly, it might be worth exploring other options—maybe someone new who can give you that same spark without the baggage. You deserve to feel good about the decisions you’re making, not conflicted or regretful.